My Dating And Relationship Podcast With Chantal Heide - Canada's Dating Coach

Why Women Need to Observe First, Choose Later

I talked to Ethel Tan about confidence, early red flags, choosing partners with intention, and how our upbringing shapes the way we date. We got into what makes relationships last, why observation matters before commitment, her journey from theater to stand-up, and my own path from stripping to coaching. If you’ve ever questioned how to pick the right person—or how to stay true to yourself while dating—this conversation will help you see things differently.

Women Are Building A New World

Two behaviorists, Chantal Heide and CC Rice talk bluntly about power, patriarchy, and why women aren’t waiting for permission. We cover building matriarchal systems now—at home, at work, and in community—through selection, standards, and autonomy. Logic + intuition. Collaboration over competition. Action over approval.

What you’ll get:

• How to build your own “infrastructure” (work, money, safety, support)

• Selection > persuasion in dating, hiring, and leadership

• Spotting “bad agents” that slow teams and movements

• Why “be nice, be quiet” is a control script

• Practical boundaries that create peaceful homes and focused work

• Logic as a practice, not a persona

If this helps, share it with one woman who builds.💖

Patriarchy Keeps Women Small — Here’s the Financial Roadmap Out | Chantal Heide w/ Mel Dorman

The patriarchy keeps women small by teaching us to budget, save, and stay quiet—while men are told to buy assets and build wealth. It’s time to flip the script.

In this episode, I talk to Mel Dorman about how women can take back power: owning buildings, practicing horizontal banking, and creating wealth that stays in our communities.

If you’ve ever been told to “just budget better,” this conversation will show you why that advice keeps you stuck—and how to start building assets, freedom, and power on your own terms.

🔥 Burn the patriarchy. Own the building.

Unlearning Toxic Masculinity: A Conversation With an Anti-Red Pill Therapist

What do men need to unlearn to become safe, emotionally available partners—and how does the red pill movement get it so wrong? In this conversation, I sit down with a Alex, therapist who calls himself anti–red pill and uses his TikTok platform to challenge toxic masculinity, outdated dating rules, and the emotional immaturity that keeps men from being good partners.

 

We talk about what men must unlearn to be truly safe for women to choose—and how our work aligns in helping both men and women build functional, respectful relationships.

 

We also unpack topics like “body count,” the influence of friend groups on emotional growth, and why emotional safety—not just status or confidence—makes the biggest difference in love. 💬

 

We talk about:

– What toxic masculinity looks like in dating

– The real meaning behind emotional safety

– Why “body count” shouldn’t define someone’s worth – How male friendships affect growth and accountability

– What both men and women need to stop tolerating

– Why the red pill mindset is emotionally dangerous

She Had “Proof” That Body Count Matters… Until I Asked This.

She came in convinced that body count matters. "There has to be accountability!" she said, arguing that a high body count is a red flag. She had studies, she had points—but when we really unpacked it, something shifted. By the end of our conversation, she realized that body count mentality is more about insecurity and control than actual compatibility. So… does body count really matter? Or are we just asking the wrong question? Let’s talk about it.

Why Is It Easier for Men to Set Dating Boundaries?

I had an insightful conversation with [guest's name], a guy who’s practicing my No Kissing for 3 Months rule and the Zero-Fight Relationship approach. He shared how he’s been able to set these boundaries without facing pushback from the people around him.

But here’s the interesting part—when women enforce the same boundaries, they often get questioned, criticized, or even pressured to change them. In this video, I unpack why this happens and how it reveals a deeper privilege men have in dating when it comes to setting standards.

I appreciate hearing his perspective, and I also share what this means for women who want to date with intention.

 

💬 Have you experienced this difference? Let me know in the comments!

From Stuck to Strong: Live Coaching a Woman in a Toxic Relationship

What started as a simple book recommendation request on my TikTok Live turned into a coaching session.

A woman asked for a book suggestion, but when I dug deeper, she revealed she was stuck in a toxic relationship. She felt in too deep to leave, but together, we explored why she was staying, how she could break free, and what steps she could take next.

I shared my top book recommendations, including Fake Love Need Not Apply (a free book) and No More Assholes, to help her identify red flags and build a healthier future if she chooses to date again. And the best part? My online community showed up for her in the comments, offering support and encouragement.

Listen in for valuable insights on leaving toxic relationships, rebuilding self-worth, and choosing better for yourself. If you or someone you know needs this, this episode is for you. 💜

Does Our Biology Set Our Morality? Diyo’s Science vs. A Girl's Illogical Claims

Does our biology determine our morality? In this heated debate, Diyo brings science to challenge a woman's belief that nature dictates right and wrong.

 

We explore how societal constructs influence our views on morality, body count, and gender norms while examining the tension between logic, emotion, and cultural indoctrination

The Loneliness Epidemic: Why Men Struggle to Connect (and How to Fix It)

Discover why so many men today feel disconnected and how it affects their well-being.

 

Our guest, Beau Pinto, shares observations from talking with countless single men in bars, noting how they seek companionship, face stigma around intimacy, and struggle to form genuine friendships.

 

Learn how men can build stronger bonds, find confidence in relationships, and overcome loneliness in a culture that often leaves them isolated.

Dealing w/Fear & The Power of Our Human Mind featuring Diyo (Psychology & Anthropology Expert)

Diyo returns to the panel to share thoughts on how fear can be used as a control tactic and why exploring different viewpoints matters.

We discuss body count myths, the impact of manifestation, and insights from psychology and anthropology. Diyo also compares human self-awareness with animal behavior, challenging the idea that only humans experience reflective thinking.

 

Throughout the conversation, he encourages curiosity, questions fear-driven narratives, and highlights the mind’s role in shaping personal growth.

 

 

"Debunking the Myth of Male Dominance: Leadership, Hunting, and Why Women Are More Than Their Bodies or Domestic Roles

In this segment of my Ask Chantal live on TikTok, I’m joined by Therese, Diane, and Diyo (a psychologist expert) to dive into a discussion about the historical roles of women as leaders, hunters, and community builders. We debunk the long-standing myth of male dominance in hunting and leadership, explore how women have always been more than just their bodies or domestic roles, and address modern issues like the fixation on 'body count'—unpacking how it often ties to insecurity and self-esteem.

Tune in for an empowering and insightful conversation!

Th Truth About Boredom in Long-term Relationships

 

In this episode, I invited Kristen Thomas, a Clinical Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach, to discuss the recent cheating scandal involving David Grohl, the frontman of Foo Fighters, who was considered a faithful husband for 20 years until revelations surfaced about him having a child with another woman.

We dive into the statistics surrounding boredom and cheating in long-term relationships, exploring how men and women experience these issues differently. Christine shares insights on how intimacy plays a crucial role in maintaining a healthy relationship over time and preventing disconnection.

Tune in as we unpack the complexities of infidelity, the dynamics of long-term relationships, and practical ways to keep intimacy alive.

How to Stop Falling for Abusers and Stop Dating Out of Fear

In this episode, I sit down with Veronica Wang, a popular Mukbang YouTuber, to dive into her journey with relationships, fear of intimacy, and how past experiences have shaped her approach to dating.

 

We explore how kissing and sex can create emotional bonds that sometimes lead to toxic relationships and share strategies on how to protect yourself from falling for the wrong person. Join us as we discuss overcoming fears, setting healthy boundaries, and finding the right partner.

 

Deconstructing Religion, Purity Culture & Gender Expectations to Strengthen Your Relationship

In this episode, I talk to a couple who grew up in a Christian background and were indoctrinated to believe that exploring their bodies before marriage was wrong.

 

These beliefs shaped their views on sexuality and impacted their relationship. They also held strong gender role beliefs, which led to further challenges in their partnership. The couple shares their journey of deconstructing these long-held beliefs and how they've rebuilt their relationship, emerging as a stronger, more connected couple today.

 

Traditional Views or Logic?

In this episode, I chat with a guest who joined my TikTok live and asked if my dating and relationship rules are based on traditional views.

 

We discuss how these rules are rooted in logic and the importance of taking control of our own actions and choices. Whether you’re navigating the dating scene or in a relationship, this conversation sheds light on why it’s crucial to set standards that are practical and self-empowering rather than relying on outdated norms. Tune in for a fresh perspective on relationships that’s all about self-awareness and logic.

What You Need to Know Before You Start Dating

In this episode, I chatted with a woman who joined me on my TikTok Live and shared her inspiring journey of breaking free from an abusive relationship.

After following my content for a while, she found the strength to leave her toxic ex. Now, she’s ready to take the next steps and wonders how she can prepare herself for a healthy and fulfilling dating experience.

We discuss key insights and actionable tips to help anyone who’s been through a tough breakup get ready to re-enter the dating world with confidence and clarity.

Red Flags to Watch Out For on a First Date

These Insecure Guys Love to Make Your Past About Them

Why Caring About One's Body Count Reeks of Insecurity

Why You Should NOT Save Yourself for Marriage

 

 

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In this short podcast episode, I am joined by a special guest who shared her powerful story during a TikTok live session. She opens up about how she was brainwashed into believing she should preserve her body solely for her future husband, a notion that stripped away her autonomy and self-worth.

Together, we delve into her journey of realization and empowerment as she breaks free from these limiting beliefs and reclaims her body and voice.

Join us for a conversation about autonomy, self-discovery, and the importance of owning your narrative.

When Guys Come In To Argue About Women's Autonomy Over Our Bodies

In this episode, we tackle a recurring and heated topic: the unsolicited opinions of some guys about women's autonomy over our bodies.

 

Join us as we discuss a recent live session where a male participant insisted that women should be held accountable for their body count. We delve into the underlying issues of control, insecurity, and double standards that fuel such arguments. Our conversation highlights the importance of bodily autonomy, the right to make personal choices without judgment, and the necessity of rejecting outdated, oppressive views.

 

Tune in to hear empowering responses and insightful discussions on maintaining our self-worth and dignity in the face of criticism.

Dating Tips for All Genders

In this episode, I talk to a member of the LGBTQ+ community who joined my TikTok live to discuss some of my most popular dating strategies. We dive into their curiosity about the "No Kissing for 3 Months" rule, explore the concept of a "No Fight" relationship, and debunk the myth that body count matters. I also share how my dating strategies are designed to be inclusive and effective for all genders. Tune in for an engaging conversation that challenges traditional dating norms and offers fresh perspectives for everyone.

An Entitled Guy Gets Cooked for Arguing Why Body Count Matters.

A guy joined my TikTok live and kept yapping about why body count matters. He tried to change my mind, but I stood firm, explaining how women have autonomy over our own bodies and shouldn't be controlled by societal indoctrination or his insecurities.

 

Tune in as I challenge his views and advocate for women's empowerment and freedom.

 

This is a conversation you don't want to miss!

Why You Find It Hard To Stick to The Three-Month No Kissing Rule

How to Find Out If They're Right For You Before Comitting

We Don't Find A Long-term Partner The Same Way We Hook Up

I explore a listener's dilemma about whether she should hook up with a guy who seems like he can't keep it in his pants and doesn't align with what she wants long-term.

 

Join me as I discuss the importance of knowing your desires, assessing the risks, and making informed decisions when faced with such tempting yet complicated situations. 

Meaningless Exclusivity

In this podcast episode, I sit down with a man intrigued by the "No Kissing for 3 Months" dating rule but puzzled about the no exclusivity aspect. He expresses concern that by not going exclusive, he might miss out if the woman chooses someone else before he gets a chance. I take this opportunity to clarify the process, emphasizing the importance of not giving exclusivity out of insecurity. We delve into why a thorough vetting period is crucial for building a solid foundation in relationships.

 

I also recommend he check out my book, "The Perfect Play," the ultimate dating guide for men. Join us for an enlightening discussion that sheds light on mindful dating strategies and the value of patience.

How Do You Achieve A Zero-fight Relationship?

Listen in as we discuss the possibility of a zero-fight relationship in this episode. We explore personal responsibility for thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, drawing insights from my book Fix That Shit. Discover practical strategies for healthier relationships.

 

How Choosing The Right Partner and Healthy Behaviors Can Facilitate Healing

In this podcast episode, I talk with a man who shares his experience of domestic violence. He discusses using a rage room to manage his anger. We discuss choosing supportive partners and healthy coping mechanisms. I recommended he and his partner grab my book 'Fix That Shit,' which teaches healthy communication tools.

Finding Loyalty and Security in Relationship

This episode features a discussion about the 'no kissing for 3 months' rule and maintaining non-exclusivity during this period to vet potential partners effectively.

The focus is on how these strategies help in assessing loyalty and establishing security in a relationship. For more insightful episodes, subscribe to our podcast